FAITH AND FAITHFULNESS

Today is my date of birth.I enter into my 72nd. year of life.
What I am going to write today is the sum total of my experience regarding faith and faithfulness/unfaithfulness in the relationships with friends,particularly females/opposite sex friends from separate nationalities or social and religious backgrounds.It becomes a matter of paramount importance also because we are now more connected than ever.Rather our survival as human specie depends upon it.
By shear luck and a bit of commonsense,I was catapult,in 1968, into a scholarship holder for studies in then West Germany.I had completed my university education and was gainfully employed in the Central Government in New Delhi.I has been just 26 years of age,well groomed & handsome looking young married man since over 2 years at that time.There used to be a general perception that men who went to the west were quite prone to desert their wives back home.But the first ever contact I made there with any girl,I disclosed my marital status.But morally or because oh the urge of love,pushed me into a emotional intimacy with her.
But as the moral prevailed,I returned back home after 7 months of extended stay in that country.Mind prevailed over heart and I was well employed with high salary near Delhi.I did visit Germany many times thereafter,but as the bird returns to her nest at dusk,I also did so.

I have had a very successful entrepreneur carrier later in 1975 and worked tirelessly till my sons grew up and started taking care of normal day to day business activities.It was now time to relax and I learned to handle computer and thus had the opportunity to peruse my hobbies.I also made a quite large friendship base with unknown persons all over the world.In the beginning it was a challenge to get 10,000 Facebook friends.I achieved the target in 2&1/2 years.The basic motive was to get connected to young girls and share my experience.I also tried to ween away misguided youth who in the name of revolution,resorted to violence.I  was quite successful in both my mottos.

A very interesting contact from Spain was developed during this period.There were clases & conflicts;but also apparently very soft emotional spots as well.I with my emotional void and the entrepreneurial abilities,created an an opportunity for her to leave her country where she said will die if lives any longer.She was invited to India by me on her determined wish to do so.But the interaction over the last 2+1/2 years had many twists and turns,those were made more complex because of her very very sad past experience,right from her childhood.But she did burn her boat and landed in my house this year beginning.She was well received by me,but my family members were not happy.They already were suspicious about my love towards Facebook friends.But my skill of resolving such disputes and difference of opinion,helped me to sail this arrangement through.She went to tour long distances fro North as well South India.The tour lasted for 2 months practically at no expense on her part.

The real story begins from here.This will be an eye opener for those who attempt to change the deep engraved mental pattern of a grown up individual.

Arun Kumar Pandey: Women On TopPlease do not misunderstand.It is tru...

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Women On TopPlease do not misunderstand.It is tru...: Women On Top Please do not misunderstand.It is true that physically they seldom do it,but in real sense it happens all the times in ou...

Women On Top

Women On Top

Please do not misunderstand.It is true that physically they seldom do it,but in real sense it happens all the times in our whole live-spans.

The moment we are created as an embryo,that divides into 1000 cells within the fist hour and this process continues unabated till 9 months until we are disconnected from her with severing the umbilical chord.Before that moment she takes care of our all need.She is one with us.Not only this,we can be traced back our entire maternal lineage through the chromosome which remains unaltered through generations.This way the entire human specie has been linked to that single lady from Africa,who is the mother of us all 7 billion people living on earth now.

This is not so with the fathers.But still we assume the fraternal lineage as the correct one.This may be because of our reaction to the real truth.We are evolved to hunt,to protect and to further our specie.We are physically therefore stronger.We have used our this brutal strength to claim our superiority on them.

If one studies the genetic behavior in the animal kingdom,such facts may be proved that we males are not even loving to our offsprings.In a lion's pride,a new king murders the cubs of the outgoing male head.It is just for a simple reason that it wants to mate with the most attractive & young lioness.Mostly male desert the females after mating.

The physiology which leads to produce the offsprings also proves this fact.While a female mostly produce one or a few eggs during her heat season,male's sperms are ever ready in millions of numbers.Nature doesn't take any chances for a failure to fertilize those eggs and also secures that once a sperm has entered the nucleus of the egg,it's wall become impregnable to other competing sperms.In most cases,the male is ready to mate other females after a short while,whereas the female doesn't till the child is self sustainable.

Females intense inbuilt motherhood knows no limits.Take the case of the 'widow spider'.She secretes body odors;

 to attract males to mate her and knits her web in a fashion that after the male spider has completed his task,it can not escape the web.She then waits till it is dead and then starts feeding on her dead corpses till such times the eggs are not delivered.She has,thus,not to waste her intrinsic energy which is required to produce the babies.

This intense love towards the children has given rise to a saying in Indic culture.It says that a son could be uncaring and a bad one;but the mother would never in any circumstances alter her love & attachment to her son.

If we look into a broader perspective,all the wars,unrest,chaos and every evil that exists in our world is because of the male dominance.

It is true that many women rulers also have a checkered history;but the are a copy cat of the male behaviors.

If we are prepared to accept the dire truth,that women are on the top and relinquish our musclier powers to hand over the real social controls in the hands of women,we can create a social order where there is no violence,no anarchy.Love,tranquility & peace will prevail and we will have a better future for the whole mankind.